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TD's Patricia Lovett-Reid and relationship therapist Joe Rich offer couples practical advice on planning for a happy retirement, together

TORONTO, Jan. 27 /CNW/ - Travel the world or stay close to the grandkids? Golf every day or volunteer? When it comes to planning the retirement of your dreams, are you and your partner on the same page? Canadian retirees say it's important to talk to your significant other to ensure you share the same vision of your future together, according to the TD Waterhouse Couples and Retirement poll. To help those couples next in line, Patricia Lovett-Reid, Senior Vice President, TD Waterhouse and relationship therapist, Joe Rich, M.S.W, R.S.W, have teamed up to provide advice on how to plan - financially and emotionally - for a happy retirement, together.

Picture your life together in retirement. What does it look like?

According to the TD Waterhouse Couples and Retirement poll, 51% of Canadian retirees say they had no idea, or only a vague idea, of what they wanted their retirement to look like and of those Canadian retirees who are married or in a common-law relationship, only half (51%) had the same vision for their retirement as their partner. Nineteen percent say there is conflict in their relationship because they have different retirement dreams.

"Retirement planning as a couple is about more than just saving money - you need an understanding of what you would like to do together and recognize that your vision will evolve over time," says Lovett-Reid. "The key to a rewarding retirement is to discuss your lifestyle goals, and how your finances can help you meet these goals. Confidence can come from an honest discussion with your partner, and the help of a trusted financial adviser."

The retirement dynamic. Get ready for change

The TD Waterhouse Couples and Retirement poll found that 34% of Canadian retirees who are married or in a common-law relationship say that they are closer than ever because now they get to spend more time together. One out of five Canadian retirees (19%) say that the hardest thing about adjusting to retired life is not being able to do all of the things they used to do because of a reduced income, while 14% say it is coping with change.

"Retirement creates a whole new dynamic for couples who have spent years together in the same comfortable routine of going to work and raising kids," says Rich. "There is an adjustment period that most couples experience when that routine changes. Getting ready emotionally to deal with that new reality can be tougher than people think - but talking to each other about your retirement expectations - and fears - can help to work through any issues, together."

Create a retirement plan that works for both of you

Canadian retirees have varying definitions of a "retirement plan." For 44%, it is thinking about lifestyle goals and how finances can help to reach those goals, for 19% it is about developing a diversified investment strategy, for 15% it is putting money aside in an RRSP each year and for 13% it is contributing to an employee pension plan.

"It's great that many of us recognize a retirement plan is achieved by carefully balancing lifestyle goals with financial obligations and opportunities," says Lovett-Reid. "What I encourage Canadians to do is consider where you are now, what you and your partner want to do when you retire, and how you can get from here to there. If you are unsure where to start, resources like can help."

Money, sex...and retirement - don't avoid the difficult conversations

"Retirement can be one of those taboo topics that couples tend to avoid, just like talking about sex, money troubles or problems with the kids," says Rich. "It is important to tackle this subject head-on with your partner long before you retire in order to avoid conflict down the road."

Lovett-Reid agrees, "If you're saving madly for a trip around the world, and your spouse is planning on starting a business, you might be headed for some challenges. Couples who discuss their dreams openly and work with a financial advisor they trust can create a roadmap for success."

TD Waterhouse Couples and Retirement poll

The TD Waterhouse Couples and Retirement poll examined the attitudes and behaviours of 1,002 retired Canadians, age 55+, including 746 retirees who are married or in a common-law relationship. The survey was fielded between January 14 and 18 by Angus Reid Public Opinion, a division of Vision Critical.

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